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It’s Not Just What’s Happening—It’s the State You’re In

One of the biggest shifts I try to help people make is this:

It’s not just what’s happening—
it’s the state you’re in while it’s happening.

Two people can be in the exact same conversation
and walk away with completely different experiences.

Why?

Because their internal states are different.

What Is an Internal State?

Your internal state is the combination of what’s happening inside of you in any given moment.

It includes:

your nerv...

There are times when the world feels especially loud.

Not just busy, but overwhelming in a way that pulls your attention outward—toward everything happening around you—and away from what’s happening within you.

In this conversation, I’m joined again by Tricia Mariani, whose work focuses on helping people understand their energy, their intuition, and how they navigate change in both their personal lives and the world around them.

What we explore together is something many people are experienci...

There’s a moment many people quietly recognize.

You say something you didn’t mean to say.
You react in a way you’ve reacted before.
You leave a conversation thinking, “Why did I do that again?”

And underneath that moment is something deeper:

“I thought I had already worked on this.”

This is one of the most frustrating parts of personal and relational growth—
the feeling that change isn’t sticking.

But what if the issue isn’t a lack of effort?

What if something more automatic is happening u...

When relationships feel tense, distant, or overwhelming, many people try to solve the problem through conversation alone.

But without nervous system safety, meaningful connection often isn’t possible.

In this episode of the #SoRelatable Podcast, I’m joined by Mos Jef, a somatic practitioner and EFT tapping facilitator, to explore how regulation, presence, and embodiment create the conditions for connection — both individually and relationally.

We talk about why the first step in couples work ...