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Should We Stay Together—for the Kids?

A New Way to Answer One of the Hardest Questions You’ll Ever Face 

If you’re asking this question, you’re not alone—and you’re not failing.

It’s one of the most agonizing crossroads any parent can face. You love your children, and you want to protect them. But your relationship with your partner feels broken, distant, or downright hostile. So what do you do?

Stay—so your kids don’t grow up in a “broken home”?

Leave—so they don’t grow up watching conflic...

Are you feeling trapped in your relationship, constantly putting your partner's needs above your own? You might be in a co-dependent relationship. Co-dependency can be subtle, but its effects can be profound, leading to feelings of resentment, low self-esteem, and emotional exhaustion. To help you identify whether you're in a co-dependent relationship, here are ten common signs to watch out for:

1. Difficulty Setting Boundaries:

You struggle to assert your own needs and boundaries, often sacr...

I get a lot of people asking me to help them with the fallout of divorce. 

The traditional model of how one gets divorced creates so much tension. We’re given a model to become estranged from a person we might have been with for decades. This is a way community and family can feel comfortable -- if we truly separate. We shouldn’t care for (let alone still love in some way), talk to, or be friends with that person again. We’re supposed to separate our lives as much as we can. Though that’s somet...

In preparation for my upcoming, Online Course: Strengthening Relationships (starting March 16th!), I invited a few colleagues and experts in couples therapy to join me to explore some of the methods that are being effectively used to bring couples closer together.

My next guest in my "Strengthening Relationships Talks Series," Dr. Namita Caen, joined me to talk about Sexual & Intimacy Coaching and how it can help couples create healthy, intimate relationships and a satisfying sex life -- accord...

In preparation for my upcoming, Online Course: Strengthening Relationships (starting March 16th!), I invited a few colleagues and experts in couples therapy to join me to explore some of the methods that are being effectively used to bring couples closer together.

My next guest in my "Strengthening Relationships Talks Series," Thomas Faupl, LMFT, SEP, joined me to talk about Couples & Finances. We explored how couples can achieve financial intimacy and autonomy with each other around their fina...

In preparation for my upcoming, Online Course: Strengthening Relationships (starting March 16th!), I invited a few colleagues and experts in couples therapy to join me to explore some of the methods that are being effectively used to bring couples closer together.

My second guest in my "Strengthening Relationships Talks Series," Michelle Bohls, LMFT, EMDR, CGP, joined me to talk about Imago Therapy and how it can serve as a critical supplement to traditional couples therapy.

Michelle’s mission...

In preparation for my upcoming, Online Course: Strengthening Relationships, I invited a few colleagues and experts in couples therapy to join me to explore some of the methods that are being effectively used to bring couples closer together.

I had the pleasure of having Ali Miller, MFT as my first guest in my expert talk series "Strengthening Relationships." 

Ali specializes in helping people who are struggling in relationships develop the self-compassion and communication skills it takes to c...