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How EMDR, parts work, hypnosis, and compassionate self-awareness can help us understand old wounds, present-day triggers, and performance blocks.

Have you ever had a reaction that felt much bigger than the moment in front of you?

Sometimes the intensity we feel in the present is connected to an experience our mind and body never fully processed. The memory may be old, but the fear, shame, self-doubt, or feeling of not being good enough can still feel very current.

In this episode of the #SoRe...

It’s Not Just What’s Happening—It’s the State You’re In

One of the biggest shifts I try to help people make is this:

It’s not just what’s happening—
it’s the state you’re in while it’s happening.

Two people can be in the exact same conversation
and walk away with completely different experiences.

Why?

Because their internal states are different.

What Is an Internal State?

Your internal state is the combination of what’s happening inside of you in any given moment.

It includes:

your nerv...

There’s a moment many people quietly recognize.

You say something you didn’t mean to say.
You react in a way you’ve reacted before.
You leave a conversation thinking, “Why did I do that again?”

And underneath that moment is something deeper:

“I thought I had already worked on this.”

This is one of the most frustrating parts of personal and relational growth—
the feeling that change isn’t sticking.

But what if the issue isn’t a lack of effort?

What if something more automatic is happening u...