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Randi Buckley, creator of “Healthy Boundaries for Kind People,” and I first spoke about boundaries about two years ago and now we’ve reconvened to explore new avenues to healthy boundaries.

Boundary setting is a practice that often starts in early childhood (with siblings at home or with others on the playground). We begin to experience those feelings of discomfort when kids and adults cross our boundaries – even if we don’t realize that’s what’s...

So the question is how much capacity do you have to be yourself in your relationships? In my podcast when I was interviewing, “Mr. Farnsworth”. He realized his marriage was not the best and healthiest place for him.

When it comes to a holiday, like Valentine’s Day, he experienced the holiday, as a painful reminder that his relationship wasn’t working. When he was alone and not taking care of himself, that holiday was also painful for him. Now that he’s in a...

I hope you'll enjoy my very first podcast episode. It's on finding, creating, and maintaining healthy relationships.

You might be here because you are wanting to establish a healthy relationship -- or you want to improve your current relationship. These practices can be applied to romantic relationships, family, and friends.

This episode is full of tips and practices for you to create the relationships you want. I'd love to hear your thoughts, questions, and ideas in the comments below!

Every year, in December, I begin to do a lot of visioning and create a vision board for the year ahead. I do this for every aspect of my life and I challenge myself, in a curious, non-challenging way, to unconsciously just do – because I put it out there in the world.

You can watch my video, included herein, for some guidance (and inspiration). 

Here's an example of my visioning exercise. Maybe you’ll start thinking about yours – and maybe you can join our...

I get a lot of people asking me to help them with the fallout of divorce. 

The traditional model of how one gets divorced creates so much tension. We’re given a model to become estranged from a person we might have been with for decades. This is a way community and family can feel comfortable -- if we truly separate. We shouldn’t care for (let alone still love in some way), talk to, or be friends with that person again. We’re supposed to separate our lives as much...

The past year + of COVID life has really done so much damage to relationships. I’m seeing relationships blowing up all over the place. Relationships that were strong and steady just got destabilized by this year of intensity. I’ve had a major influx of inquiries for my divorce groups and discernment counseling (which helps people decide what to do with their struggling relationship -- be it to do nothing, separate, or try to work on it). 

So many relationships have suffered...

I've been wanting to talk about codependency in relationships for a long time, so I thought I'd start chipping away at it in a series of talks and blogs. So, here we go.

Last night in my group, we were talking about the concept of asking for what we need and how difficult that is. A lot of people experience that kind of ask as a confrontation -- and they're really uncomfortable confronting somebody when they're setting a boundary -- instead of just feeling comfortable and confident. Did...

If you’re taking this dating thing seriously, I wonder if you could consider a few “success” strategies for yourself. Here they are…

There’s this concept I love known as “THE THREE DATE RULE” -- so, I’ll start there. 

Some coaches advise going on three dates -- with the goal of making it to the third date. My clients, on the other hand, say I’d rather use my gut and decide if I’m attracted to the person first....

I had the pleasure of speaking with Relationship and Sex Expert, Steve "The Dean" Williams about how men can change their self confidence, for GOOD, so that they no longer feel anxiety, self doubt, and nervousness when approaching women and starting conversations.

There's so much good stuff in this video -- and I hope you enjoy watching it as much as I enjoyed our conversation!

About our Guest: Steve "The Dean" Williams

Steve “The...

Many of us have spent a lot of (painfully lonely) time by ourselves over the past 14 months, and we’ll pretty much take any kind (or just visible) smile and (warm) body at this point -- seriously, any warm body. So, for now, we’ll just settle into our familiar patterns and swipe our way into the most convenient hook-up (yeah, yeah… after we have “the talk”) and hope that it lasts awhile. 

With all of the changes that have taken place over the last year or...