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Every year, in December, I begin to do a lot of visioning and create a vision board for the year ahead. I do this for every aspect of my life and I challenge myself, in a curious, non-challenging way, to unconsciously just do – because I put it out there in the world.

You can watch my video, included herein, for some guidance (and inspiration). 

Here's an example of my visioning exercise. Maybe you’ll start thinking about yours – and maybe you can join our discussion about it in my new private...

I get a lot of people asking me to help them with the fallout of divorce. 

The traditional model of how one gets divorced creates so much tension. We’re given a model to become estranged from a person we might have been with for decades. This is a way community and family can feel comfortable -- if we truly separate. We shouldn’t care for (let alone still love in some way), talk to, or be friends with that person again. We’re supposed to separate our lives as much as we can. Though that’s somet...

The past year + of COVID life has really done so much damage to relationships. I’m seeing relationships blowing up all over the place. Relationships that were strong and steady just got destabilized by this year of intensity. I’ve had a major influx of inquiries for my divorce groups and discernment counseling (which helps people decide what to do with their struggling relationship -- be it to do nothing, separate, or try to work on it). 

So many relationships have suffered because they are not...

I've been wanting to talk about codependency in relationships for a long time, so I thought I'd start chipping away at it in a series of talks and blogs. So, here we go.

Last night in my group, we were talking about the concept of asking for what we need and how difficult that is. A lot of people experience that kind of ask as a confrontation -- and they're really uncomfortable confronting somebody when they're setting a boundary -- instead of just feeling comfortable and confident. Did you eve...

If you’re taking this dating thing seriously, I wonder if you could consider a few “success” strategies for yourself. Here they are…

There’s this concept I love known as “THE THREE DATE RULE” -- so, I’ll start there. 

Some coaches advise going on three dates -- with the goal of making it to the third date. My clients, on the other hand, say I’d rather use my gut and decide if I’m attracted to the person first. This is because, quite often, something physical happens on the third date and...

I had the pleasure of speaking with Relationship and Sex Expert, Steve "The Dean" Williams about how men can change their self confidence, for GOOD, so that they no longer feel anxiety, self doubt, and nervousness when approaching women and starting conversations.

There's so much good stuff in this video -- and I hope you enjoy watching it as much as I enjoyed our conversation!

About our Guest: Steve "The Dean" Williams

Steve “The Dean” Williams is a Relationship and Sex Expert....

Many of us have spent a lot of (painfully lonely) time by ourselves over the past 14 months, and we’ll pretty much take any kind (or just visible) smile and (warm) body at this point -- seriously, any warm body. So, for now, we’ll just settle into our familiar patterns and swipe our way into the most convenient hook-up (yeah, yeah… after we have “the talk”) and hope that it lasts awhile. 

With all of the changes that have taken place over the last year or so, it’s understandable that the though...

When we're out of a relationship, and we're thinking about dating again or starting a new relationship, we have to face our biggest critic -- ourselves.

The ‘ghosts’ of our past, along with the reality of our current situation, may unexpectedly hit us when we’re thinking about that first new introduction or when we sit down to try to write our dating profile and consider… Who am I now? What did I just go through? Did I spend enough (or any) time on healing from what happened? How will I explai...

I just wanted to give you a little bit of a concept that I've been working with today -- the concept of synchronicity. This is not an unknown concept. We've all heard this before and I wanted to share with you how I use it. 

I'd love to hear about how it worked out for you!

This is an exercise that I really love, give my clients, and do myself (often). You'll see the picture there -- two people sitting back-to-back (I’ll get to that).

So… I had these family members come into my session once and they each just had a bunch of unmet needs. They were so mad at each other. They just could not listen to one another. They were really frustrated and I wanted to give them a tool for them, at that moment, and whenever that happens at home (or whenever it might), so I asked ...