Should We Stay Together—for the Kids? A New Way to Answer One of the Hardest Questions You’ll Ever Face

Should We Stay Together—for the Kids?

A New Way to Answer One of the Hardest Questions You’ll Ever Face 

If you’re asking this question, you’re not alone—and you’re not failing.

It’s one of the most agonizing crossroads any parent can face. You love your children, and you want to protect them. But your relationship with your partner feels broken, distant, or downright hostile. So what do you do?

Stay—so your kids don’t grow up in a “broken home”?

Leave—so they don’t grow up watching conflict, resentment, or emotional silence?

This is not just a relationship decision. It’s a family legacy decision. And that’s why it deserves more than quick fixes or avoidance. It deserves clarity, care, and guidance.

What If the Real Question Isn’t “Stay or Go”… But How?

At Solutions Therapy & Mediation, I’ve worked with hundreds of couples in transition. I’ve seen how the pressure to “figure it out” fast leads to confusion, rushed decisions, or years of painful limbo. I’ve also seen how a thoughtful process—one that respects both the parents and the children—can change everything.

That’s why I’ve created a short video series called:

🎥 Should We Stay Together—for the Kids? 

In just a few minutes each, these videos guide you through the heart of this question—and the real-life paths that follow.

The Emotional Trap of “For the Kids”

Let’s name the emotional reality:

• You’re exhausted.

• You’re second-guessing yourself constantly.

• You may feel guilt, fear, or deep sadness—sometimes all at once.

The idea of staying together “for the kids” sounds noble… until it starts to erode your well-being. And your kids notice more than you think. Kids are highly attuned to emotional tension. Even if you never fight in front of them, they feel the silence. The disconnection. The stress.

The question isn’t “Will divorce hurt our kids?” It’s:

What kind of home life helps them thrive emotionally and relationally in the long run? 

A Path Forward—Whether You Stay or Separate

There are three powerful ways I support couples who are asking this question:

1. Discernment Counseling

For couples on the brink, where one wants to stay and the other is leaning out.

🔗 Learn more about Discernment Counseling »

This is not couples therapy. It’s a short-term, structured process (usually 1–5 sessions) designed to help both partners get clear on whether to:

• Work to restore the relationship

• Move toward separation or divorce

• Pause and wait before deciding

It’s calm. It’s private. And it’s transformative.

2. Couples Therapy & Mediation

For couples who choose to stay and want to rebuild their relationship with support.

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Even if you’ve decided to stay, you may still feel unsure how to actually do that. Old patterns resurface. Communication breaks down. Mediation gives you tools to co-create a more stable, respectful, and connected relationship—especially if parenting is a big part of the challenge.

3. Co-Parenting Therapy & Mediation

For couples who decide to separate and want to co-parent peacefully and effectively.

🔗 See Co-Parenting Support Options »

Divorce doesn’t end your parenting relationship. If anything, it adds new layers of complexity. This service helps you:

• Create a parenting plan

• Minimize conflict

• Communicate with boundaries

• Keep your child’s emotional needs at the center
  
  

What to Expect from the Video Series

Here’s a preview of the five short videos you’ll find on my YouTube channel (throughout the month):

🎥  Introductory Video

🎥 Video 1: Should We Stay Together—for the Kids?

Introduces the core question and common myths surrounding it.

🎥 Video 2: When You’re Not on the Same Page About Divorce

Explores “mixed-agenda” couples and the Discernment Counseling approach.

🎥 Video 3: What if We Decide to Stay?

Outlines what healing and reconnection can look like with support.

🎥 Video 4: What if We Decide to Separate?

Shifts the focus to peaceful co-parenting and respectful family restructuring.

🎥 Video 5: What’s Best for Everyone—Long Term?

Reframes the decision through a legacy lens—for you, your children, and your future.

You Don’t Have to Decide Alone

Whether you’re barely holding on or quietly questioning your future, this series is for you. Not to tell you what to do—but to help you find the space to decide what’s truly right.

🕊️ If you’re facing this decision right now, you don’t have to rush—and you don’t have to go through it alone.

Let’s talk about your next right step.