Are you engaging in regular conflict (or working hard to avoid it)?
Do you want to get the fire and intimacy back, but aren't really sure how to do it?
Create the relationship you've always dreamed of.
Feel truly connected.
Experience real and lasting intimacy.
"Strengthening Relationships" is a four-week, online course for couples who want to strengthen and enhance their relationship and regain and evolve their intimacy. It will teach you the skills and guide you through the process to understanding yourself and your partner, so that you can have the most fulfilling and intimate relationship possible with your partner.
Susan Regan is a Relationship Expert, Coach and Certified Mediator. As a seasoned family and Couples Therapist, she believes that if you get the right kind of support, you can get your life and relationships back on track and create the kinds of relationships you really want.
Did your relationship start out strong and supported by love and respect, but around six months to one year, you found that some relationship challenges arose, things began to feel a little stale or stressful, and now you’re feeling distant from your partner? Are finances, sexual intimacy and unmet needs creating conflict?
Because we don't often receive strong modeling around "good relationships," it can be difficult to work through those challenges in a productive way and maintain and grow intimacy, as the relationship evolves.
Conflict and productive fighting can absolutely strengthen your relationship... but you need to develop the skills it takes to use these as a positive growth opportunity, instead of a destructive force. As differences begin to present themselves in your relationship, you can maintain and count on your own understandings and insights about yourself and the development of your individuality within that relationship, as it grows. You will also learn to communicate to your partner about your needs and understanding of yourself. This will create the closeness you desire.
In this course, I will guide you through the process, with your partner, to develop the skill set to benefit from conflict, have the difficult conversations, and use effective communication, to allow your relationship to grow and evolve.
What if your partner doesn’t want to join? What if you don’t have a partner? You can still join this course -- because information is golden and knowledge is power. Taking what you learn into your relationship, whether now or in the future, will transform it!
Conflict doesn't mean that things are bad and the relationship should necessarily end, is doomed, or will fail. Conflict can just be a call that the relationship needs to grow and change. In order to do that, both (ideally) people need to do something different -- to develop more skills to conquer and find solutions, so the relationship can evolve as well as the individuals in the relationship. Everybody gets to develop themselves so that the relationship can get to the next level of closeness.
The ability to have strong and productive, nonviolent communication, express your needs, and manage and communicate your expectations is just part of it. Finding ways to discuss the difficult issues, such as sex and finances, is another. These skills can equip you to have the strongest relationship possible with your partner.
You will learn the critical skills to have a successful and fulfilling relationship with your partner, including:
If you feel your relationship is already strong, this course may be a good refresher for you and a way to evolve your relationship even further. Perhaps you've lost sight of some of the ways you've ensured, in that past, that your relationship is growing in the right direction.
If you feel your relationship is a little rocky, this course will help you get back on track and begin to evolve beyond the best period in your relationship.
Sometimes we don’t know where the conflict or disconnect is coming from. Maybe the things that are stressful overlap into many different areas and it’s difficult to know where to start or how to unravel the issues.
No matter the status, your relationship will benefit from the strategies taught in this course.
If your partner isn’t interested, but you know you want to work on the relationship because it’s rocky OR If you’re afraid to start a new relationships without a different way of approaching relationships -- this course will also work for you.
How many of these questions can you answer “yes” to?
If you want to be able to answer “yes” to more of these questions, this course will lead you into developing skills to create and develop these aspects of intimacy.
Wherever you are in your relationship... just wanting to strengthen it, feeling misunderstood or under appreciated, having unmet needs, or needing to develop and deepen it further... This course will give you the skills and strategies to address the difficult topics and conversations and work through any feelings of shame around discussing these issues with your partner.
I believe in love. No, really -- I do! And I also know that love is not all there is. And that, in order to have and retain love, you need to have skills, solid communication, and the ability to inquire and reflect on how you affect another person. We also need to have empathy -- the ability to put yourself in someone else's shoes! People can have the kinds of relationships they want to have and heal themselves within those relationships.
Are you ready to have a more fulfilling relationship, where you both feel understood, appreciated and have ever-evolving intimacy?
In this course, we’ll talk about communication, sexual and financial intimacy, feelings, and unmet needs. Here’s more about that:
When it comes to sexual intimacy, it all starts with you. (Yeah, each of you!)
Does that sound scary and make you feel vulnerable? Let’s move past that.
Most of us are not taught or encouraged to explore our own sexuality or communicate our needs with our partner -- especially in long-term relationships, when we need to really “work” on developing intimacy, as our relationship grows. Sexual intimacy won’t often happen in the same way it did years ago and that’s no such thing as “normal” when it comes to sex and intimacy.
In this course, you will also learn:
Talking about finances with your partner can be downright scary and can often lead to serious conflict.
Will they reject or criticize you, because you have debt, don’t have enough savings or investments, don’t know much about finances, or don’t really know where you stand financially? Or, will your partner fear these discussions with you for the same reasons?
In this course, you will learn how to:
Coming into these conversations, equipped with the language, the communication skills, and the confidence of knowing that it’s a safe space, will allow you and your partner to gain true intimacy in these areas -- instead of additional stress, conflict and disconnect.
Much of the disconnect and conflict that arises in relationships comes from one or both partners’ unmet needs or unacknowledged feelings (which can come from the present, or our past experiences).
We’ll talk about the ways to have nonviolent communication with your partner and how you can use Imago Therapy techniques to approach your problems as a “team” and understand explore the impacts of projections and perspective within the relationship.
In this course, you will learn how to:
You will spend time together during this course, outside of the time you’re typically spending together now… a different kind of quality time -- an emotional time and strategizing time.
This is where you’ll develop a way of establishing a compartmentalized approach to working on your relationship (so that it doesn’t take away from the other areas of your life) and practice new skills and strategies with your partner.
Relationships can either be a healing, wonderful and amazing part of your life -- or they can be the thing that drains you.
Choose to make it the former.
I love this message that I got in a series that I’m *finally* watching called ‘Jane the Virgin’... It’s not that we find love that’s everlasting – we just keep choosing each other.
Keep choosing each other and get the skills and strategies to have it be the healing, wonderful and most amazing part of your life.
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