LEARN WITH SUSAN
Start with the question that's on your mind.
Sometimes understanding the pattern is the first step.
Susan shares relationship teaching, expert conversations, and articles to help you understand what's happening beneath recurring conflict, uncertainty, intimacy struggles, divorce, rebuilding, and the patterns that shape how we relate.
You don't have to know where to begin. Start with what you're trying to understand.
START WITH THE QUESTION
What are you trying to understand?
Relationships rarely fit neatly into one category.
Start with the topic that feels closest to what's happening. More than one may fit.
EXPLORE THE QUESTION
RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS & CONFLICT
Why do we keep having the same argument?
Why does one person push harder while the other pulls away?
Why do small moments become so emotionally charged?
Explore Susan's teaching on recurring conflict, defensiveness, withdrawal, emotional triggers, repair, communication, and the protective patterns underneath our reactions.
EXPLORE THE QUESTION
INTIMACY & CONNECTION
Connection can change even when love is still there.
Susan explores emotional safety, trust, resentment, vulnerability, sex, closeness, disconnection, and what helps people feel seen and understood again.
EXPLORE THE QUESTION
SHOULD WE STAY TOGETHER?
Sometimes the hardest part isn't deciding what to do.
It's understanding why you're uncertain.
Explore relationship ambivalence, discernment, the difference between temporary frustration and deeper disconnection, and what can help create clarity without rushing the decision.
EXPLORE THE QUESTION
SEPARATION, DIVORCE & CO-PARENTING
Ending a marriage doesn't necessarily end the relationship.
Parenting, family ties, conflict, grief, identity, and practical decisions can continue long after separation.
Explore Susan's teaching and conversations about divorce, mediation, co-parenting, family transitions, grief, boundaries, and rebuilding.
EXPLORE THE QUESTION
PERSONAL GROWTH & REBUILDING
Sometimes the relationship question becomes a question about yourself.
Who are you after the relationship changes?
What patterns do you want to understand before you move forward?
Explore Susan's teaching on dating again, identity, loneliness, emotional awareness, recurring patterns, and creating a different next chapter.
EXPLORE IN THE WAY THAT WORKS FOR YOU
Three ways to learn with Susan
SUSAN'S VIDEOS
Susan's own teaching, explanations, reflections, and relationship education on YouTube. Clear, practical conversations about conflict, communication, intimacy, divorce, reactions, and change.
EXPERT CONVERSATIONS
#SoRelatable brings Susan into conversation with therapists, mediators, educators, authors, and other experts about relationships, emotional patterns, healing, and change.
ARTICLES & RESOURCES
Written reflections and educational articles about relationship patterns, intimacy, difficult decisions, divorce, rebuilding, and emotional awareness.
Workshops & Learning Experiences
Susan periodically develops educational workshops and learning opportunities about relationship patterns, conflict, communication, intimacy, relationship crossroads, separation and divorce, co-parenting, rebuilding, and personal growth. Dates and enrollment details are shared when a current offering is confirmed.
Explore The Composure Lab — a distinct educational initiative about human behavior under pressure, emotional regulation, conflict, communication, and organizational or community learning.
START HERE
A few thoughtful places to begin.
These pieces speak to some of the questions people bring to Susan most often.
WHY YOUR STATE OF MIND CHANGES THE CONVERSATION
Sometimes the situation isn't the only thing shaping conflict. Your emotional state can change what you hear, how you interpret it, and how you respond.
WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT COMES NEXT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Clarity doesn't always begin with a decision. Sometimes it begins by understanding what is keeping you uncertain.
THE FIRST YEAR AFTER DIVORCE
Divorce changes much more than relationship status. Explore emotional, practical, and relational challenges that may arise as you begin rebuilding.
SUSAN'S TEACHING
Watch Susan explain it.
Explore why familiar relationship patterns repeat—and how understanding them can make new choices possible. Each topic above includes a video you can watch here.
Recurring relationship conflict
Notice the reactions and defenses that can make the same arguments feel impossible to change.
Relationship crossroads & clarity
Explore uncertainty and possible directions without rushing a stay-or-leave decision.
Divorce & co-parenting
Consider how families can create steadiness for children as relationships and households change.
EXPERT CONVERSATIONS
#SoRelatable with Susan Regan
Susan talks with therapists, mediators, educators, authors, and other experts about relationships, change, emotional patterns, and the experiences that shape how we connect.
These conversations go beyond quick advice to explore why people react the way they do, what relationships reveal about us, and how greater awareness can create more choice.
Featured expert conversation: #SoRelatable Ep. 16 — Grief Stages in Mediation with Robert Terris. Susan and Robert explore how grief intersects with mediation, relationship transitions, and the decisions people face during change.
MORE FROM SUSAN
Articles, conversations & reflections
Susan regularly shares articles, conversations, and reflections about relationships, emotional patterns, divorce, intimacy, and personal growth.
WHEN YOU'RE READY TO GO DEEPER
Understanding the pattern can change what you do next.
Sometimes a video, article, or conversation is enough to help something click. Sometimes understanding raises a new question: What do I do with this now?
If you'd like more direct support, explore Susan's work with couples, families, and group participants, as well as specialized Individual Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy for eligible clients.
WORK WITH SUSAN
Explore therapy, coaching, discernment, mediation, and other relationship support.
OPTIONAL CLARITY PACKAGE
For some relationship questions, Susan's paid 3-Session Clarity Package provides a structured way to explore options. It is not the universal first step or a prerequisite for support.
GROUPS & GUIDED SUPPORT
Explore current group support and guided-growth offerings. Educational workshops and resources belong within Learn.
ARE YOU A CLINICIAN?
Susan also offers professional education, experiential learning, and clinician-focused resources.
You don't have to have the answer before you start exploring.
Sometimes one useful idea can help you see a familiar relationship differently.
Start with the question that's on your mind — and follow what helps you understand it more clearly.