Deciding: to Stay or Separate?

Is Your Relationship on the Brink?

You don’t have to stay stuck. Let’s figure out the next right step—together.

Feel Like You’ve Been Circling the Same Questions?

• Can this relationship work?
• Should we separate?
• How much longer can we keep going like this?

Maybe you’ve felt unhappy for a long time. Maybe there’s been conflict, distance, or blame. Maybe it feels like you’re just roommates—or that love has faded altogether.

These are heavy places to sit, but they don’t have to be permanent.

Your Relationship Deserves Thoughtful Attention

When a relationship feels like it’s on the brink, it’s easy to either avoid the hard conversations or rush into decisions. But there’s another way.

Discernment Counseling offers a structured process to slow things down and figure out what’s next—with clarity and care.

What is Discernment Counseling?

Discernment Counseling is a short-term, six-session process designed to help couples who are uncertain about their future:

• Do we recommit and work on the relationship?
• Do we separate respectfully?
• Do we pause and wait for a better time to decide?

You don’t need to have the answers before starting—that’s what this process is for.

Why Work With Me?

I’m Susan Regan, a licensed therapist, mediator, and certified discernment counselor with over 25 years of experience guiding couples through these difficult crossroads.

I bring a unique blend of skills—therapy for emotional insight, mediation for conflict resolution, and coaching for forward movement—to help you navigate these decisions with compassion and practical tools.

The Six Step, Six Week Process

1. Start Together: We begin with a joint session to explore where you are and how you’re feeling.

2. Individual Reflection: Each partner meets with me one-on-one to share their perspective, concerns, and hopes.

3. Gain Insight: We’ll explore your relationship’s patterns, strengths, and struggles.

4. Clarify Options: Together, we’ll discuss realistic paths forward.

5. Make a Decision: Whether it’s rebuilding, separating, or pausing, you’ll come to a shared understanding.

6. Plan Next Steps: No matter what you decide, you’ll leave with a clear plan for what comes next. 

Program Investment: $1,500 for six 90-minute sessions.

Is This You?

• You’ve been stuck in the same place for what feels like forever.
• You feel blamed or misunderstood, like your partner rewrites the history of your relationship.
• You’ve fallen out of love, or maybe trust has been broken (like an affair).
• You feel like roommates, barely interacting—and you know something has to change.

If any of this resonates, you don’t have to keep feeling stuck. It’s scary to move forward, but it’s harder to stay in limbo.

Additional Support if You Need It

• Community Support: Join a cohort group within my community designed for individuals facing these tough decisions.
• If You Choose Divorce: I also offer divorce mediation in AZ, CA, CO, FL, GA, IL, MA, MI, NC, NV, NY, OH, OR, PA, TN, TX, VA, and WA, and divorce coaching nationwide to support a respectful, informed separation.

Ready to Find Clarity?

You don’t need to make decisions alone. Let’s create a plan that works for you, so you can move forward with peace of mind—whatever direction that takes.

Get the Support you Need

Within my Relatable© community, you'll find a variety of programs and resources to support your journey towards healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

With a diverse selection of spaces to gather, learn, grow, and get support, you'll be able to start small and expand as you're ready.

If you're interested in joining THIS group, become a member of my Community and then add this group to your membership!