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CHOOSE THE AREA YOU ARE INTERESTED IN, AND LISTEN TO SUSAN TALK ABOUT IT VIA THE AUDIO LINK, OR READ THE TRANSCRIPT.

SUSAN IS AN EXPERT IN THE FOLLOWING FOUR AREAS AND HAS CREATED THIS CONTENT TO HELP YOU LEARN ABOUT HOW TO DEAL WITH TRIGGERS.

1. Deciding to divorce

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2. Co-parenting

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3. Couples

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4. Being better in your daily life (NEW!)

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WORKING ON YOURSELF IS A PROCESS AND IT IMPACTS ALL OTHER RELATIONSHIPS IN YOUR LIFE....

HELLO,
IT’S SUSAN, AND WELCOME TO THE FIRST APRIL 2019 NEWSLETTER!

This month I will be continuing my discussion of these free, proven tips in FOUR topics:

Deciding to Divorce:
Break free from the cycle of dependency.

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Co-Parenting:
How to easily work your way through transitions with your children, co-parent and yourself.

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Strengthening Your Couple Relationship:
Listening and reflecting back creates deeper relationships.

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Families don’t end in divorce- they change. There’s a lot of adjustment. Sometimes figuring out how to share parenting responsibilities brings up old issues from the marriage. Despite this, it is important that you both put your kids’ needs first.

Co-parenting Counseling helps parents restructure time. You will learn to adjust to custody arrangements and how to set up space in each home to make kids feel secure. You will also learn to set healthy boundaries so everyone feels...

During a separation process parents‚ personality differences get magnified
– especially when deciding the custody of their children.

Disappointment, depression, anxiety, and anger are normal at this time. Different personality types express these feelings in different ways. Understanding what’s underneath the behavior can help you find empathy for yourself and your child’s other parent.

Problem Solvers: This type fends for and protects their children more than they...

When there is personality conflict,
it’s invaluable to have the help of a neutral third party
– someone who understands how divorce impacts everyone,
including parents and kids.

Co-parent Counseling benefits include:

• Keeping focused on the children
• Understanding kids’ developmental needs
• Helping kids adjust to the transition
• Providing a neutral and emotionally safe place for parents to create a new relationship, based on the best interests of their kids.

Co-parent Counseling...

Now What?

Well, you’ve come to the decision that you have to divorce and you really want to get through this as peacefully as possible without spending your life savings. Just remember that as long as you and your spouse are in agreement, you can pretty much do whatever you want—it’s just a matter of figuring out the best strategy to get through the court system. Here are some things you can do to avoid litigation and get your process through your local court system.

First...

People undergoing separation and divorce go through seven stages of grief. It’s important to understand the grief cycle and know what stage you are in so you can keep track of yourself emotionally and get the support you need while you are having logistical and decision-making conversations with your partner. Often, your partner will be in a different stage of the grief cycle. There are also two other emotion-related “feedback loops” going on, having to do with who initiated...

Divorce can be wrenching when kids are involved, but there’s a lot you can do to help children cope. If you’re a parent dealing with divorce, try to remember that your child needs you now more than ever. Offering reassurance, hope, and a sense of stability can help ease the effects of divorce on children of all ages.

Children Coping With Divorce

When children are free to love both of their parents without conflict of loyalty, to have access to them both without fear of losing...

When I’m working with divorced families, one of my goals is to help parents and children to retain, find, or redefine their own identities. All of the family members should be able to see themselves as being surrounded by their own circle of identity, even when they engage with other people.

Unfortunately, kids in divorcing families are often put into a situation where they are urged to feel more empathy for one parent over another. Or, they are put in the position of trying to figure...

Divorce is a scary and overwhelming thing. Sometimes people know they are unhappy in their marriage, but have trouble deciding what to do about it. Should they stick with the “known”, or jump into the unknown territory of divorce? How does one go about making the divorce decision?

One of our Divorce With Dignity referral associates is Marriage & Family Therapist Susan Regan, MFT. We asked her to share with us some of her thoughts on this topic.

Susan, in what ways do people...