Stuck in a Long-Term Relationship? Discover How Real Therapy Can Rekindle Connection

Think long-term love should be easier by now? You’re not alone. For many couples, 15+ years of shared history can lead to emotional fatigue, conflict cycles, and disconnection. But there’s hope. In this blog, we dive into Susan Regan’s 5-part video series, More Than Talk, to show how modern couples therapy—rooted in nervous system awareness, integrative tools, and strategic support—can help you finally move forward.

For many couples, 5, 15, or 25 years together can bring comfort — but also disconnection. You still care about each other, but the spark is on autopilot. Conversations feel transactional. Conflicts keep looping in familiar, exhausting patterns.

You’ve tried talking it out. Maybe you’ve even tried therapy. But nothing sticks.

This isn’t failure. It’s relationship fatigue — and it’s more common than you think.

The Truth: You’re Not Broken. You’re Stuck in a Pattern.

According to licensed therapist Susan Regan, MFT, most long-term couples aren’t struggling because they’ve fallen out of love. They’re struggling because they’ve never been taught how to work with the system of the relationship.

The problem isn’t you or your partner. It’s the loop you’ve both been living inside.

Meet More Than Talk: The Video Series Designed for Long-Term Couples

More Than Talk is Susan’s FREE 7-part video series for couples who feel exhausted, disconnected, and skeptical that therapy will help.

Each episode pulls back the curtain on what actually happens in effective couples therapy — and why talking alone often isn’t enough. You’ll see how nervous system science, attachment theory, and body-based interventions can turn long-term frustration into long-term connection.

💡 Pro Tip: In Susan’s approach, the relationship is the client — not just two individuals in conflict.

🎥 Episode Guide: What You’ll Learn (and Why It Matters)

Episode 1: The 20-Year Argument

You’ve been having the same fight for years — maybe decades.

The topic changes, but the feeling doesn’t: defensive, frustrated, stuck.

Susan shows you how to map the cycle you’re caught in, remove blame, and finally see the pattern as the problem.

Episode 2: Attachment Styles in Real Life

One of you withdraws. The other pursues.

You both end up feeling unheard.

This episode unpacks how your earliest bonds shape your conflict style — and how understanding those styles can create instant shifts in empathy and connection.

Episode 3: Beyond Talk Therapy

If you can describe your issues in your sleep but nothing changes, the problem isn’t insight — it’s your nervous system.

Susan shares how body-based and neuro-informed tools like somatic work, EMDR, and even Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) can help couples feel different, not just think differently.

Episode 4: Repair Is a Skill

Long-term love can suffer “death by a thousand cuts.” Small betrayals and missed connections erode safety over time.

Susan walks you through the micro-moments of repair that make intimacy possible again — and why forgiveness without repair isn’t real healing.

Episode 5: Staying Connected for the Long Haul

Therapy’s goal isn’t to keep you in therapy — it’s to help you thrive outside of it.

Learn the rituals, check-ins, and prevention strategies that keep couples connected through major life changes.

Episode 6: Mental Health in the Relationship

Anxiety, depression, and trauma don’t just live in one partner — they ripple through the relationship.

Susan explores how to integrate mental health support into couples work so healing is shared, not shouldered alone.

Episode 7: Addiction and the Couple

Addiction alters trust, intimacy, and safety.

This episode shows how couples can rebuild together, balancing compassion with accountability — and why recovery has to happen as a team effort.

Not Ready for Therapy Yet? Try This First.

If you’re in the middle of a shutdown or about to get pulled into a familiar argument, try Susan’s Pause and Pattern Check:

1. Ask yourself, What am I really reacting to?
   
2. Notice: Am I pursuing? Withdrawing? Defending?
   
3. Just recognizing the pattern is the first step to shifting it.
   
   

Where to Go From Here

Long-term love isn’t about avoiding problems — it’s about learning to navigate them without losing connection.

If you’ve felt like therapy “didn’t work” before, don’t give up. Susan’s approach is different: grounded in science, systems, and deep respect for what you’ve already built together.

✅ Watch the Intro Video
✅ Watch the More Than Talk Series
✅ Download the free tool "Couples Inventory Worksheet"
✅ Book a free 15-minute consult if you’re ready to go deeper

💬 You’ve been together a long time. That matters.
Now, it’s time to make sure it lasts — and not just on paper.

👉 Explore the Full Series Here 

👉 Visit Susan’s Couples Coaching Program